How to Support a Loved One With Dementia During the Holidays

Around 6.2 million American adults over 65 live with dementia and need help with everyday tasks. Caring for a loved one with dementia is often stressful, and the holiday season can be especially difficult.

At Memphis Neurology, we understand how challenging it can be to balance holiday activities with the changing needs of someone affected by memory loss. With a bit of preparation, patience, and the right strategies, you can create a warm, supportive environment that helps everyone enjoy the season — especially your loved one.

Create a calm and predictable environment

People with neurodegenerative diseases like dementia often feel more comfortable when routines stay consistent. The holidays can disrupt schedules with large gatherings, travel, or unusual activities, so you help the season feel smoother by keeping their day as familiar as possible.

Try to maintain usual mealtimes, sleep routines, and daily habits. If you plan to attend events, choose shorter visits or quieter moments so your loved one doesn’t feel overwhelmed.

You can also prepare them for upcoming changes. Talk calmly about what will happen, who they may see, and what to expect. Simple reminders and gentle reassurance help reduce confusion and anxiety.

Adjust your celebrations

Big family gatherings can overstimulate someone with dementia. Instead, consider adapting traditions to fit their comfort level. Host smaller get-togethers, schedule visits earlier in the day when they may feel more alert, and create quiet spaces where they can rest if needed.

Background noise from music, conversations, and holiday excitement may make it harder for them to follow along or stay relaxed. Lower noise levels, dim bright lights, and keep decorations minimal to avoid sensory overload.

If your loved one enjoys certain traditions, like decorating cookies or listening to familiar songs, incorporate those in calm, simple ways. Focus on meaningful activities rather than busy schedules.

Communicate in supportive ways

Patience and understanding play a massive role in helping someone with dementia feel safe and included. Speak slowly and clearly, make eye contact, and give them time to respond. Ask simple questions and avoid harsh corrections if they forget details or repeat themselves.

Family members who don’t see your loved one often may not know what to expect. Before gatherings, gently explain what changes they may notice and offer tips on how to communicate. This helps prevent awkward moments and creates a more supportive atmosphere for your loved one.

Help them stay included in meaningful moments

Dementia can make people feel left out, especially during fast-paced holiday events. You can help them stay connected by offering simple roles or tasks, for example:

• Setting napkins on the table
• Helping wrap small gifts
• Sorting ornaments
• Choosing a holiday movie

Familiar smells, music, and traditions can bring comfort and spark memories. Playing their favorite holiday songs or preparing a dish they’ve always enjoyed may help them feel more grounded and engaged.

Watch for signs of stress or fatigue

Loved ones with dementia may show signs of stress through pacing, irritability, confusion, or withdrawal. Pay attention to their body language and mood. If they seem tired or overwhelmed, offer a quiet break or end an activity early. Keeping celebrations flexible helps everyone feel more relaxed.

Remember that emotional changes during dementia can become stronger during the holidays. Validate their feelings, provide reassurance, and redirect them gently when needed.

Plan ahead for travel

Traveling with a loved one who has dementia requires extra care. If possible, keep trips short and avoid crowded airports or long car rides. Bring familiar items like a favorite blanket, photos, or snacks to help them feel secure.

Make sure you stick as closely as possible to their sleep, medication, and meal routines. If travel feels too overwhelming, consider inviting family to visit you instead.

Don't forget to take care of yourself

Caring for a loved one with dementia can take an emotional toll, but remember, it’s okay to ask for help. We encourage caregivers to look after their health and well-being, because your strength helps your loved one feel supported.

Share responsibilities with your family, take breaks when needed, and avoid setting unrealistic expectations for yourself. You can also benefit from talking with dementia support groups, counselors, or medical providers.

Reach out for professional guidance

Every family’s situation is unique. If you notice changes in your loved one’s memory, behavior, or daily functioning, our neurologists can evaluate the situation and recommend care options.

The holiday season may look different when your loved one has dementia, but a meaningful connection is still possible. If you have questions or need guidance, the team at Memphis Neurology is here to support you. Simply call our office or complete the online inquiry form.